While standing in the self-checkout line at a grocery store, one woman noticed another shopper who was checking out nearby.

She sure is thin, the woman thought. She’s got to be wearing a size 4, maybe a 2. I haven’t worn a size 4 ever in my life. She’s so lucky. She’s got it so easy. She’s so skinny. Maybe I would be that thin if I hadn’t had three children and if middle-age spread hadn’t hit me at 40 with a vengeance, the thoughts continued.

In the span of a few minutes, the first woman made a number of assumptions about the thin shopper: that she wears a small size, that she doesn’t have to work for it, that her life is possibly easier because she is thin, that she perhaps doesn’t have any children. And in the process of making one assumption after another, the first shopper put herself down, mentally envying the other woman and criticizing herself based on the assumptions she made and the estimated size of a stranger.

But as the thin shopper completed her checkout and turned to leave the store, the first woman noticed the shirt she was wearing:

“ENOUGH,” it said in big, bold, brave letters. And underneath that one word followed these six words:

“I have. I do. I am.”

I have enough. I do enough. I am enough.

A simple statement on the (size small, but who cares?) T-shirt of another shopper stopped this woman in her tracks. And she wondered if this stranger she was observing and judging needed to be reminded that she was enough, maybe there was more to her than just her outward appearance. And maybe these two women, despite their differences in clothing sizes, had more in common than they could possibly know. Both were striving to embrace the “enoughness” of their own lives and contributions and places in the world. Both were more than just the easy-to-see categories their physical attributes divided them into. And individually, totally, and completely, they have enough, do enough, and are enough, simply because they exist.

How often do we criticize ourselves and others, measure someone against a standard that is unfair, unrealistic, unattainable? If it were possible to dress every person in the world in a statement article of clothing, perhaps this should be the T-shirt of choice, no matter the size, shape or color. Because when we truly embrace these messy, brutal, and beautiful lives we’ve been given, we find that, despite our weaknesses and shortcomings, we are pretty remarkable beings.

So the next time you catch yourself making assumptions about a stranger or comparing yourself to another shopper in the checkout line or another parent on the soccer field, stop. Enough. That’s enough. And you are enough.

Remind yourself of this today, right now:

You have enough. You do enough. You are enough.